Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Third side of a coin....

Every good or bad things that have ever happened to you are just a mere coincidence.... People often believe that a coin has two sides...but there is a third side in there too...

I often suffer a feeling of dilemma to choose between the theories proving the existence of a superpower. While my heart prefers believing that 'God - the super-being' exists, my brain judges its existence when things don't go my way. I'm sure everyone feels the same way as I feel. We are human and it's natural for us to remember god or look forward for his divine miracle only when we are suffering pain.

Since ages when human first attained consciousness, there is this debate that a super-power exists. A group of people have always been believing that they are controlled by something invisible while the other group disagree to this theory, and hence they are tagged as 'atheists'. Even in the first group, there are many belief systems as to what this invisible controller is. Some define it as God; and depending on what religion they follow, god itself is again perceived differently by different minds. While this definition is always criticized by atheists on grounds of scientific theories which tends to prove the non-existence of any such entity.

When I turn into a believer, I see things happening only on his will. I feel the cause of my happiness is the good thing I've done. And, the cause of their misery is the bad things they might have done. I don't question unless I find it going against my happiness. When things go terribly bad, I start to call him with an anticipation that bad times would fade away with his compassion. Two possibilities, either things will change, or will remain intact. If things change the way I want it to change, I thank him, and if not, I start questioning its existence.

When I find myself doubting its presence, I see my happiness as a mere coincidence. I feel the cause of my happiness was not the good thing I've done, but is a condition that I happened to live coz everything was in my favor. And, the cause of their misery is not the result of bad things they have done but simply because their environment is not in their favor. I question its existence and I start believing that money and power can do anything.

Science has not proved its existence, neither has it been able to prove that it doesn't exist. And, Science is never a complete knowledge, it changes when new theories are built.

In this state of dilemma, I often feel it's logical to toss a coin and let it decide its fate...if it turns head, it exists, if it turns tail, it doesn't. Coz, both are true for me; just depends what I want it to be.

I toss the coin expecting it to be head when I want him to exist, and I expect it to turn tail when I'm atheist. Like everyone I also believe the coin can have only two sides, either he exists or he doesn't......... Tossed up the coin...but the coin has stood on its breadth. Neither head nor tail....

The third side.... there's the answer to our question.... does it exist, or it doesn't?

Monday, June 20, 2011

Dreams...

"There are some people who live in a dream world, and there are some who face reality; and then there are those who turn one into the other.” -- Douglas H. Everett

Dreams……………we try hard to get it… we work hard on it… and we sacrifice all our happiness for the sake of our dreams……..
Hopes….we strive to get something we want to have……. Struggle…we keep on trying hard n hard n hard until and unless we reach there….
And when dreams are shattered….hopes die….We cry...get tears...n it looks like whole world gonna end for us....
And, when we are in pain....no words of consolation works....n only we can feel the real pain....
But here is where we are different from others..... we just can't lose hope and give up....
... we can't stop dreaming..........for we believe our dreams need to be real....

"When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Going" -- Joseph P. Kennedy

Hopes never die…struggle never ends…and dreams are always there…


"When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”
Paulo Coelho

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

O my mama!

O my mama!

Like a moonlight
Heal our darkness!
Tears we pray with
Bless us with happiness

We seek nothing but your love
Problems; help us sail through ocean
Weak are we, give us strength
Miracle; help us change our lives

We might be wrong, mistakes we always do
Intent we carry to make a better world
Dreams; help us make it real

O my mama!

We Have to Grow UP
We Have to Grow Up
We Have to Grow up
And Fly High

Like Sunrise, we will shine
And make our life beautiful
With memories, we shall believe
All Good things we gonna see

And, the path will lead us
To a place
where we will smile
Gardens of happiness, we'll create
Sadness and tears we will fight

No matter what it takes
World behind us might change
This inspiration will never die
We have to grow up, and fly high

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Like a bird...










Kiddingly, this song/video is the one to be played on my death day/anniversary... nothing serious about it...just kidding.. :)

Words & Voice by
Gopal Trital

Like a bird

Time has gone like a sand slipped through my hand
Memories will fade, your love will remain
Hey, 'm flying away....
Like a bird we sang, and this is the end
isn't it..

Someday we cried, someday we laughed
Here and there we ran, for a minute we died
A reason I saw you in your eyes,
Life,it's strange, where we gonna fly...

Like a bird will we come back and meet again
Memories will fade, your love will remain

Many things to stop me here...
I really don't wanna leave you there...
But still I can't help, not to cry

Like a bird will we come back and meet again
Memories will fade, your love will remain
But 'm proud..
All the pains we tackled,
problems, they couldn't make us suffer
and, still we were strong...
the more we fell...
the more we grew up...
isn't it...

So please don't cry...
Like a bird we will come back n meet again
Memories will fade, your love will remain

Like a bird,
Yes, we gonna fly back again
and meet again
Like a bird,
Yes, we gonona come back again
Memories won't fade, and your love will remain..


Life...a little funny, a little wonderful, a little bad, a little long....
Life...a little beautiful, a little wrong, a little right, a little everything...
----Gopal.....


Dedicated to


my soul sister....


without u, life wouldn't have been this beautiful...


and meaningful.....


Thursday, April 14, 2011

" ....more precious than anything...."

" ..... a smile on your face.....a meaningful reason to see myself happy...."

"...... dreams......simplest form of what we really wish things to be...."

" ...... worries those don't occupy just a mind space rather inspires to move ahead...."

" ...... moments not just beautiful coz it's good rather it's true......"

"...... love that is beyond conditions.... "

" ...... pain that doesn't make me lone but makes more closer to you......."

" ...... prayers - sincere, so pure, and yet so divine.... "

" ...... words - unspoken, unheard, yet so understood....."

" ...... differences - existing, not to prove who is right, but always our way to learn...."

" ...... sadness that never stays hidden, always been read through eyes...."

"....... life that will never die at least in your heart though useless to many others ..."


Many people feel I should regret for I resigned out of Standard Chartered Bank, did not go for the confirmed job in IOM, and chose to stay in UNDSS.....for they think, I could have earned a little more or my job would have been a little more secured out there......and today, even after this job seems falling, I don't regret coz I have gained what I call more precious to me than whatever money I could have earned.

" ........though 'm sure to lose it, at least I'm living a life that will soon perish, with a smile....."

" ........ and even if it dies, memories still gonna rise, and rain inspiration for many others..... "

With love, Gopal

Monday, April 4, 2011

Give me truth…

01:35 AM, 04 April 2011

Out of nowhere, I am typing in my thoughts, my blog after a long gap, views I didn't prefer to jot down. I am talking to myself, what exactly am I doing right now rather than taking a bit of rest or having a late night "breakfast" or watching a movie. My TV is still shouting out loud "India's WC victory on Aaj Tak, finally muted. Few people wonder if I do watch the "Occasionally aired erotic Russian Channel", and I wonder why I don't prefer to watch it. Long have gone the ages that pornography is confined; people no longer have to wait for midnight shows, it's all easily accessible in internet where you can download for free; movies with obscene scenes are no longer considered vulgar; well conservative mind should now understand, world has now changed; the only thing important is you need to be true. Being a part of today's generation, if someone denies that he/she is unknown to porn; he/she is acting fake. It's only the truth, good attitude and self discipline that really makes a person different; leads him along a noble and human path. What's the difference between Terrorist and Security forces; both have guns; one follows the path of inhumanity while the other seems to protect humanity. Having said that, I don't back up the need of pornography, I am against it, the way it goes against Women where feminine is only linked with sexual aspect of male dominant society. There have been debates over this topic, questions raised to minimise its presence, but still left unheard and unanswered. Personally, I find no any positive aspects in porn, it cultivates negative thoughts towards females; it portraits women as a substance with no any intellectual being; where 90% of world is still male dominant, it just helps to worsen the exploitation.

Well, ‘m not watching it…but to have written these words in a public page might be considered wrong; I really do believe in showing your true side of life, even if it’s dark. Your truth might never hurt anyone the way your fake being hurts.

Just realized, was distracted, so, here is what I really wanted to write.

Sometime I really do wonder if I need to change the way I am; but again, I fail to. I see relatives around me who are faking each other for the sake of money, friends back biting in each other’s absence and duality everywhere. When a person feels loved, he feels hurt when he later knows that he was loved to extract things out of him. One of my friends recently summarized his story; the way his aunty used to treat his grandfather. The old man was quite happy that his daughter-in- law loves and respect him which he was quite sure of, the way she used to talk good things to him in his presence. But whenever the grandfather was out of house, my friend’s aunty fired out her anger towards the old man, like how a burden he has been, and she is all doing this only coz she expects he would later sign his land to her. Grandfather comes, her fake smile, and again grandfather feels loved and cared.

These days, all I hear and witness is, relatives acting unreal. I wonder why they always feel like overrating someone makes a person happy. I have observed people who are good inside but so fake to the world outside; I do hate meetings that tend to focus on topics concerning someone else. I love to be with people but I want to keep the conversation going on about either you or me, when it comes to pinching someone else who is not present in the gathering – “something that you never have gut to express in their presence”, I can imagine you talking about me somewhere else where I would not be present.

About two years ago, I was shocked when I attended a small gathering; the way they were expressing views about a woman employee, the one who have been working with them for more than five years. And I realized, how fake is the world, how fake is everything, and how powerless I really am. It took quite a long time for me to come out of it. I wonder, why, is this the indication, I need to change?

Not just that recent past, I could see friends misunderstanding, colleagues fighting and parties being converted into a theatre of obscene language and allegation. While everyone points out “alchohol or mistakes or blah blah blah” the reason for a sudden eruption; I point it out – it’s a threshold of fake identity that bursts sometime. Had you been true, you might not have been so good, but still, you might not have hurt the other person, the way your fake identity has hurt.

I confess, I am not a social person, I don’t have bunch of friends and I can’t talk to you like the way you can talk to me, but at least, whatever I give you, I try to give you true. I’m proud to have a few true friends who are always there even when I’m happy or sad, quite lucky to have my dearest soul sister who is always true to me and who I can be true with, my other sister far yet so close who understands me and above all, my grandmother who was always a true being, she never cared if someone would get angry or happy by her true views, she never talked greasy, she never acted.

I don’t want to give anyone a fake happiness, fake love and I really don’t enjoy when I am not true. Still, the environment I live in tends to change me, why and for what, and I wonder would I ever be able to adapt with the way everyone is enjoying the fake identities around....

... rather than love, than money, than faith, than fame, than fairness... give me truth….(Alexander Supertramp, “Into The Wild’ paraphrased Thoreau)

Sunday, February 27, 2011

Birthday Ride

2345 Hrs, 24 Feb: Back home after a long tiring day/evening at office.

0000 Hrs: Turned on my cam to record the first video blog ‘Happy Birthday, Gopal’. Didn’t feel like any extraordinary change though, was just an ordinary night; the clock was still ticking the same way as it does always. Even the video was the worst ever, with me lost in the dark an

d strongly required recycle bin. I was too exhausted and before I tried doing any other crazy stuff, I was lost in dream.

(Time unknown, somewhere in Dream): “Happy Birthday my son!” It was so bright out there, couldn't figure out where it was, but the voice was so known, I couldn't see her, but she was there, my grandma.

0230 Hrs: I suddenly woke up amidst chaos in the other room which has been rented to a family looking after their bedridden patient. One of the family members suffered a terrible stomach-ache, and his sister, helpless, was crying out of fear, while others were busy trying to call ambulance. The man who suffered the stomach-ache was talking like it was his last pain helping his sister to cry more. Soon, the ambulance arrived giving some relief to the environment. What a terrible scene to start with.

While things got normal, everyone else seemed slept, but I was still awake as if I was rejoicing my birth day. But there were no plans, no birthday celebration and no excitement too. I said to myself, probably, this is going to be like my usual ordinary day, the same routine I would follow, out of bed at 10, to realize that I just missed the cool morning. At 11, I might be checking emails in office, the same boring place to be in. By 1230, I would be back at my room for second installment of sleep, and TV would take over my evening.

I looked at my bike, it was shiny and clean, its wheel demanding to get dirty, I heard a sound from within, ‘let’s go to Dhankuta’, and the next moment, I approved it. I always had this desire to go somewhere far through hills on bike ride, but never could allocate time for myself, for my happiness and it’s like, I am two people inside, one that represents the original me and the other that represents ‘Gopal’ – the one that I am to the world. Everytime I get back to bed after a long tiring day, my other self seems questioning me for what I did the whole day. I try justifying what extraordinary I have done, how I could bring smile on someone’s face, how amazing my day was, did these and those. And, suddenly a question pops out, ‘what did u do for yourself?’ I always ignore this inquiry and it remains unanswered. Sometime, when my loving ones seem distant, I then try to befriend myself which in turn seems curled up the other way demanding the question to get answered.

Thoughts started twinkling in to invite Gaurav from Damak, or my friend in Biratnagar (who I was not sure if she was still in Biratnagar) or someone from office, or my uncle for the ride. But, it was too early in the morning to give them a ring, and before they would apply for leave and stuffs, I would have got late. I really didn't want to disappoint myself yet again on my birthday cancelling the plans like I always do. Without giving a second thought, I started preparing my back pack.

My jacket seemed angry with my plan; the zipper slider blew off. I tried the other one, it too malfunctioned. Thought to ignore the cool wind that would erode me, I adjusted the zipper for temporary use with hope that I would meet a tailor to fix it up somewhere on the way.

0600 Hrs: Ready to go!!!!


I started from Kali Temple. This is the place where my grandma used to bring me in to celebrate my birthday. She then used to buy sweets to distribute. She always remembered my birthday and she was the only one who could make me feel special on this day. Even during her final year, when she had lost her memory due to serious diabetic shock, she was not able to recognize anyone; not even her sons but she still remembered me and my birth date. She was so special and she still is.

I also missed my sister, together we used to be in this temple to pray and to check if the ‘temple cap’ was still there in its place lol. (don’t know the exact translation for Gajur :) ). After my grandma, she is the only one who I love being in this temple with and feel blessed. I tried recording a video, inspired by James Franco in the movie 127 Hours, but those loud speakers around the temple didn't help me.

It was just a crack of dawn, college girls were staring at me when I was trying to shoot the video, beggars were awaiting for their part of treat and my bike was showing its hunger for fuel. Soon, I was out on the highway and gradually speeding up.


I threw out my frustration at Nepal Oil Corporation when I paid some 1100 bucks to refuel my bike. Fuel tank completely filled up, my pulsar seemed happy, racing at its best. Audioslave started beating “I am the highway” on my earphone, and I soon stopped for a quick video shoot. It’s 0630 AM in the morning, and as you can see, this is Biratnagar Gate. Biratnagar ends here and this highway goes to Dhankuta. ‘m alone but I’m looking forward for a wonderful trip, it’s my birthday and this is my way of celebrating it.” Sailing through the cold foggy environment, I continued the ride, simultaneously recording a video So, here ‘m accelerating through this cold wind, enjoying this damn good song, and yes, it seems like ‘m having fun’. I soon realized that this act of craziness might help me invite an accident or could exhaust the memory stick, so I thought not to record any video, and gave the camera some rest.


I was shocked to see my uncle on the way (later knew he was returning back from Khanar)and he was more shocked to see me early in the morning on the highway. He didn't wish me for my birthday and it was completely unsurprising, no one in my family remembers my birthday now.

I soon reached Duhabi bridge where the sun was just about to rise.The sky was red and beautiful. I always regret that I am not a good photographer, if I were; I would have been able to capture its beauty more efficiently.The sunshine was so lovely, and I felt like it wasshining only for me; to bring me a birthday wish.

Definitely, remembered some very lovely moments that we had spent here during our bike trips to Chintan Chautari, remembered everyone in the group and moved on.

I was so happy to see a tailor shop at Khanar and they were so delighted to start their day gaining an easy income. While they were experimenting with few zipper sliders, I started Opera applet on my mobile to check email from my sister who must have, by then, emailed me a birthday wish. Yes, I was right, there was an especial note, my first birthday wish from my dearest sister. I smiled to thank; but tailor misunderstood it was for him; anyway, I thanked him too, he had helped me survive out there in the cold.














Dharan was just rising. I terribly needed a breakfast but there were hardly any shops open. Hills begun from here. With the first turn on the hill, the first string of happiness touched my heart, the feeling of being free and far from everything and everyone was quite awesome. The music was still on and gave a perfect blend to my happiness.








0815 Hrs
: Reached Bhedetar. I was too hungry by then. I stopped for some breakfast. “Egg-thukpa”, my birthday breakfast was quite delicious. I didn't want to climb up to the CharlesPoint. We have visited Bhedetar for almost twenty times and each time we visit here, we are atCharles Point. So, it was not that exciting any more. I skipped Charles Point and headed towards Dhankuta.

Roads sloped downward from here, at 60 km/hr, it was like a free-fall. Give me some sunshine, Give me some rain, Give me another chance, Oh! I wanna grow up once again!” the song was inspiring me to sing along, cool air bringing all oxygen to freshen me up, I was enjoying every bit of ride. I stopped at a place where once my sister, Ed and I had clicked an instant photo. There were women waiting for their bus for Dharan and they were giggling at me when I was trying to take their picture.

I continued flowing downward till I reached the place where we had played cricket with local kids during our last visit. I didn't see any kids around but there were surely pigs and cows watching me move on the highway. Local women were carrying bulk of grasses for their cattle.














Listening to music and admiring the beauty all around, in no time, I reached Tamor Bridge. Locals were selling sugarcane sticks and oranges. Tamor river was flowing on its own pace, the water appeared green from above. I had never been on bike beyond this place, though I had been far till Terathum(some 150 kms away) on car. I really couldn't enjoy travelling on car and had promised myself that I would certainly make it to these places on bike someday.

After spending some fifteen minutes here, I continued the journey up towards the hill. I could see school children walking, smiling back at me, kids joking, having fun and big boys observing my bike. From a distance, the Tamor bridge was looking amazingly beautiful. At places, I could see big stones placed on the road, which might have been there when routes were obstructed during protests. The traffic was gradually getting high, but I really loved riding in hills. Drivers seem quite disciplined in hills rather than in plains.

I was all free. I was not thinking of anyone, I was not missing anyone, I was not worried, I was not thinking of past, I was not thinking for future, no rush, no where to reach, no where to stop, no complains, no anger, no fear, no sadness, nothing fake, no regret, no pain, all real, full of life, inspiration, I was living a life, completely my life. My inner self was no longer isolated; I could feel the happiness from within. And, I said, thank you to myself, for such a wonderful birthday gift. The feeling is inexpressible.














1012 Hrs:
Dhankuta greeted me well. I roamed around Dhankuta bazaar for a while. It was almost the lunch time, but thought to continue my journey and have my lunch at Hile. The route between Dhankuta and Hile is quite scenic; you can see Hile Bazaar on one side and Dhankuta on the other side. Also, the Half-pipe shaped speed breakers are quite unique in this part of the route.









1045 Hrs: Hile was as usual, shining with its natural charm. I stopped at Hotel Gajurmukhi, ordered a birthday lunch and recharged my electronic stuffs. I visited a local monastery and roamed around.

I thought to continue my travel up to Basantapur, but later heard that the route was quite disturbed. I also hadn't carried any heavy woolen stuff, so gave up the idea. The weather was quite unfavorable too, with no sun shining through. But, I really wanted to ride up to Basantapur and then towards Chainpur of Sankhuwasabha. I still have glimpses from my childhood days at Basantapur where I could enjoy the superb view of mountains that appeared like a painting on blue sky.

I went up towards the hill to get a view of Hile Bazaar. I noticed a cute child with red cheeks, sitting silently near the roadside; he looked like a doll from the distance. He was so happy when I took his pictures. So, that was all I could do in Hile.














Speedometer: 130 Kilometres away from home!

I thought to return back and raced down the hill. The return journey was even more fun. I stopped at places to click pictures. By then, the traffic was quite high, there were buses super packed, even the roofs were tightly occupied.















The day was getting clearer making hills more visible from distance. Trees were sky high at places and red flowers were adding to the beauty. I don’t have words to express the fun I had through the route. It was an eternal series of scenic hills and happiness. I reached Tamor bridge at around 1200 Hrs, the sun was just above my head and it was quite hot out there. But, after a few kilometres away from the river, the sun was not that strong.












On my way back to Biratnagar, I was nearly hit by a truck, and to celebrate the escape, I ordered a cup of tea at Duhabi. There were some birthday wishes on my facebook page and I was so happy to read them. I hadn’t entered the correct birth date of my facebook page, so most of my facebook friends were unaware of my birthday.

By 1600 Hrs, I was back in Biratnagar. It was then, the time to meet my grandma.

The Krishna Temple in Biratnagar is the place where I can feel my grandma. My grandma was a devotee of Krishna and she was attached to this temple. After her demise, this is the only place where I get to experience her aura. Whenever I feel sad, happy or need to pray, I come here. Here, I don’t worship Krishna or any God, I just share my feelings with my grandma, ask her to solve my problems and feel blessed. I feel my grandma’s presence and it’s quite a miracle that whenever I have prayed here, my prayers have always been answered.

So that was my way of celebrating my birthday, and it was quite a fun.






I was invited for a dinner by Chetna di and Neetu di. Well, they must have planned for a surprise birthday dinner without letting me know that they had ordered this secret birthday cake for me. As soon as I reached the place, the waiter unknowingly spoilt their plan with an innocent question “Should I bring the cake now?”. Hilariously, this surprised Chetna di more than me. The dinner was quite a fun. Loads of thanks to Chetna di and Neetu di who made my evening. The cake was really beautiful. The bike ride after the dinner was quite a thrill; we were racing high at 20 km/hr, probably the highest speed for Neetu di. lol

Well, the last piece of happiness still remained. I received an email from my other sister all the way from Southern Hemisphere making me feel special.

I gave a final look at the speedometer, it read 260 Kilometers of happiness.

Back at my room, I lied down on the bed, summarizing everything that I did throughout the day. No questions popped out, my inner self was no longer away from me, I silently smiled.